Family

Fortunately, I got to spend this Mother’s Day with my father & my sister.

It’s been one year and 5 months since my mother passed away and I think I have to agree with my sister that Mother’s Day has become my least favorite day of the year.

While other’s are posting pictures of their mom’s on facebook and making plans to buy them flowers and fancy dinners, we are just reminded that we can’t give our mom the hug that we so desperately wish that we could. We can’t make that phone call and hear that voice that we so much want to hear.

So, it was wonderful timing that dad & Renee came to visit me in Seattle this weekend.  I’m so grateful to be able to spend so much time with them.  I love them so much.

We explored Pike’s Place Market, hung out at Deception Pass – a scary but magnificently beautiful bridge on the way to Whidbey Island, and tried out many coffee shops, restaurants and cafes in the area.  We also made sure to enjoy the sunshine, crisp air, fresh pines, and pure waters of Seattle.

All of my life, my mother was really the center of the family, and we were like the 3 moons orbiting around her majesty, Bev 🙂  But now that she’s not here anymore, we moons are learning more about each other – how to listen, how to love, how to care, how to yield, how to support…..how to let go and hold on…and how to just live well.  I think that we are doing a really good job and I know that my mother, wherever she may be, would be so happy to know that we made this trip happen.

All my gratitude for my lovely family ~ you are so precious to me*

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9 Thoughts.

  1. Hi Danielle. Read your reflection on Family and thought you would appreciate this beautiful passage:
    “Your mother is always with you. She is the whisper of leaves as you walk down the street. She is the smell of certain foods that you remember, flowers you pick, the scent of life itself. She is the cool hand on the brow when you are not feeling well. She’s your breath in the air on a cold winter day. She is the sound of the rain that lulls you to sleep, the colors of the rainbow. Your mother lives inside your laughter. She is the place you come from, your first home, and she is the map you follow with every step you take. She is your first love, your first friend, even your first enemy, but nothing on earth can separate you, not time, not space, not even death.” Author unknown Sent by Charlene

  2. Hi Danielle, thanks for posting this. We are about the same age and I lost my mom about four years ago. For her, it was certainly a release but she left us behind devastated. Like in your family my papa and I orbited around her. She held our family together, smoothed the waves after arguments and in general did everything to make us happy, often cutting back on her own wishes. She was a wonderful person. I still miss her terribly, in particular on the such occasions, and I think I always will. This is probably one of the wounds that never heals but only closes temporarily and then gets scratched open again. I can entirely understand your and your sister’s dislike for Mother’s Day. But it’s good to see that you found such a nice use for the day enjoying each other’s company. – Daniela

  3. I think we might be close in age (I’m 30) – I lost my mom 2 years & 6 months ago and until then I never realized how publicized Mothers Day is – and every year I want to crawl in a hole for most of April and the beginning of May so I don’t have to hear about it every time I turned around. I agree with your sister, I used to love Mothers Day and now I hate it and can’t wait for it to be over.

    • Hello Amanda,
      Thank you for sharing. I totally understand. I try to stay really centered when dealing with the intense way that our society hypes up these kind of things, and just re-direct my attention elsewhere until it all passes. Otherwise, it can be too overwhelming.
      I guess at the very least we can all take some comfort in the fact that we are not alone and there are many others out their who have lost their mom’s and are grieving quietly rather than celebrating noisily such a day.

      I wish you the best ~

      Danielle

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