Recently, I came across a small passage by my teacher, Ilchi Lee, on the subject of being ‘hurt.’
I found it intriguing because hurts and wounds are things that I have had to deal with for most of my life. From one perspective, I can say that I am a person who has experienced many hurts and I tend to get hurt easily. I feel like I have spent A LOT of time climbing out of that hole. At some point in the climb, my attitude changed from,“Poor me, life gives a lot of hurts to me” to, “I’m tired of victimizing myself all the time – NO MORE!” The empowerment that I experienced when I made the switch of mind fuels me as I continue to work with this aspect of myself in pursuit of creating a healthier and happier me and a healthier and happier life!
Having said all of that, I’d like to share Ilchi Lee’s passage with you:
Having been hurt greatly, many people think only and constantly of those hurts. Holding onto your hurt doesn’t heal it. The past has passed, the future is yet to come. Those who know Absolute Value laugh out loud. ‘It rained on me,’ they say with a laugh, and shrug it off. It’s not always raining. Sooner or later the rain stops, and, eventually, the sun comes out again. Those who know Absolute Value can create their lives anew.
Be grateful for your reality. If you’ve been hurt, just think of it as a hurt you once gave to someone else. Whether that hurt is great or small, it’s a process those living in this material world will have to go through.
This little passage made me feel so many things when I read it! First of all, I love where he says, If you’ve been hurt, just think of it as a hurt you once gave to someone else. That is so humbling to me. I feel it’s really true and when I think like that, there is no space to stay in victim consciousness.
Second of all, what is Absolute Value? To use the above scenario, the sun would be the Absolute Value. It is always shining in the sky, it’s just that clouds come and temporarily cover it, or the Earth turns and temporarily hide it from us. However, it’s always there, quietly shining and waiting. It doesn’t get sad or upset when it’s covered. It just shines in it’s Being-ness.
What’s even more important is knowing that we are like the sun. Our True Nature shines like that – unbreakable and unending. It just gets covered from time to time with the stormy weather of our hearts, but it is always there. So when I can remember that this is my value – not the rain or wind of my thoughts, emotions, and wounds – but this eternally shining Light, then I can let such hurts roll off of me. It’s all about what we identify ourselves as.
These days I often remind myself, “I don’t exist.” It might sound strange, but I want to keep remembering that the small “I” who I have been identifying myself as – who is a cultivation of stories and beliefs and memories – actually doesn’t really exist. She only exists as much as I hold onto her existence. But if that “me” is causing me great suffering, then why keep holding on? It would be a wiser choice to breathe out and let the stormy weather pass, reclaim myself as the great sun that shines brightly at all times, then re-create my moment again. What’s most amazing to me is that I have actually begun to truly experience this and live my life this way – after longing for it for so many years. And it is quite refreshing!
Am I pain free? No way. Which is why I love the last sentence of this passage maybe most of all — that this is a process we all have to go through. Because we have bodies, because we live on the planet inside of a material world – we just have to accept this process of growth and development that we are going through. The process of polishing the Divine Light within us until we can really see ourselves and our lives clearly. The process of slowly coming out of the illusion, into the Sun- Light again. Embracing it all as a process makes the journey much more joyful. Think about it: Without the many years of grinding in the oyster, the shiny little pearl would never be born!
Let’s become the brilliant pearls of humanity together 🙂