Forgiveness Again

I think this is my third time to write about the topic of forgiveness.

I am still grappling with it, and I have had some awakenings about it recently.

When I went deep inside, I discovered something that surprised me.  I found that the people who I thought that I needed to say, “I forgive you” to, are actually the people who I need to ask, “Please forgive me.”

When I turned it around this way, my heart opened and tears of repentance flowed out.  Repentance for not being able to embrace those people with my biggest mind and my brightest self – for not being able to hold them in my heart with unconditional love and understanding.

Then, I asked myself to forgive myself for this.  I began to feel that this is one of the main things that I came to this lifetime to do – to forgive myself.  If I am honest, this is a work in progress for me.

A student of mine shared with me a beautiful prayer that she came across.  I’m assuming that the author is anonymous.  It’s perfect, so I wanted to share it here with you.

A Prayer of Forgiveness

If I have harmed anyone in any way, either knowingly or unknowingly, through my own confusions, I ask their forgiveness.

If anyone has harmed me in any way, either knowingly or unknowingly, through their own confusions, I forgive them.

And if there is a situation that I am not yet ready to forgive, I forgive myself for that.

For all the ways that I harm myself, negate, doubt, belittle myself, judge or be unkind to myself through my own confusions, I forgive myself.


I love this prayer because it makes everything easier to forgive when seen through the perspective of “confusions.”  And it’s so true, isn’t it?  Aren’t we just forgetting who we really are in those dark moments and confusing the Light of Truth with its shadows?  This prayer asks us to forgive unconditionally.  To step out beyond the small I did’s, You did’s, I didn’t do’s, You didn’t do’s and just step into the eyes of Heaven, the Universe, to see with a cosmic mind….

It’s so healing, isn’t it?  I hope that you find healing in it also.  If we could all forgive ourselves and forgive each other, just imagine the possibilities for humanity and the earth!  I would like to finish my post today with that beautiful dream sparkling on the screen my imagination*

9 Thoughts.

  1. DearestDanielle who is one of my favorite humans on this earth! This is by far my favorite post of yours to date. I ask your forgiveness for at times I felt resentment that you didn’t reach out to me more to meet and to just be friends on a deep, trusting level. The truth is, until the past week I may not have even seen my own unforgiveness, and I have been traveling the EXACT same path as you this past month. OUR souls are friends, and we share a similar heart in a myriad of ways. You are a beautiful creation, one in which I am so thankful to have crossed paths with. My heritage and bloodline are even almost identical as is our ” life story”. You have touched my life in ways you will never even know. I offer forgiveness and ask for forgiveness. With a heart of respect and love…………
    Here is my fav prayer from childhood to today:
    Lord make me an instrument of your peace
    Where there is hatred let me sow love
    Where there is injury, pardon
    Where there is doubt, faith
    Where there is despair, hope
    Where there is darkness, light
    And where there is sadness, joy
    O divine master grant that I may
    not so much seek to be consoled as to console
    to be understood as to understand
    To be loved as to love
    For it is in giving that we receive
    it is in pardoning that we are pardoned
    And it’s in dying that we are born to eternal life

    • Dear Jen, it’s so good to hear from you 🙂 I, too, ask for your forgiveness for any hurts that I may have caused you without intention. I can feel your heart and mind and I am always sending love and light your way. You hold a dear place in my heart. I love you, and I am so happy to receive your response to this post! xoxo

  2. I think forgiveness is a beautiful act of love, both for ourselves and for those around us. I think it is a necessary part of being a human being; to extend this form of love. And I believe it is very healing – physically and mentally and emotionally healing for ourselves, and socially healing for the society we live in. I think you right, too, that a little introspection on this is a good thing and that maybe we do have to forgive ourselves for not being forgiving in order to move forward and forgive; now that is something I never really considered before. Looks like I have some soul searching of my own to do. ☺

    • Thank you for your response Kathy. I am always glad to be a stimulus for more soul searching! It’s a great, ever-unfolding, ever-deepening healing journey -Life. Thanks for sharing a bit of your journey with me. Love ~

  3. Thank you Danielle for this sharing on forgiveness. The self-forgiveness part of the poem really resonated with me. The inner demons that I detest the most, who cause the most self-inflicted pain, are the very ones that need forgiveness. My awakening is that at the root of this behavior and thinking is a “saboteur” who is self-defeating and comes from a place of unworthiness. Forgiving this saboteur is a life-long challenge and remains a work in progress. There are depths more to explore and be brought into the light of love and forgiveness.

    • Yes, you are right Charlene, it is a life long process. I think “unconditional forgiveness” is what we all need to be able to jump out of the negative traps within us more quickly.

  4. Dear Danielle Nim,
    As you know, I too have had a difficult time loving, forgiving and accepting myself. I also hve had a tough time with my own personal self image and body image. You all have seen me at least trying to make an effort to make myself feel good or better about myself. I still struggle with the concept of forgiveness with my birth mother and with others who have wronged me even when they thought they were doing things to protect me. They may have and I understand that much. But does it get easier for one to forgive both themselves and others? As Charlene said, we all have our inner demons to forgive. I think forgiveness of self and others may be a lifelong work in progress as you and others have all stated. Like Jen, I find you to be one of my dearest friends, mentors and soul family of choice. I am also struggling and following this same path, thinking that I need to say I forgive a person when I really should be asking them to forgive me. Does any of this make sense?

    • Hi Taya! It’s great to hear from you here 🙂 . I totally understand your struggles. I think the key is in stretching ourselves out more widely than the person we know ourselves to be. From our own small self, filled with hurts and wounds, we can never do the work of forgiving and letting go. But when we expand our hearts more widely we can embrace everything with the big love and compassion that exists within all of us. We need to get into that place, that perspective, for healing to happen. I hope that makes sense for you also 🙂 Love to you!

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