Brilliant Solitutde

One last post on the topic of loneliness!

I realize that people might have many different kinds of reactions and responses to this word because each of us may have a different relationship to the feeling and idea of loneliness, depending on where we are at in life.  In addition, each of us may have had different past experiences regarding it, so our memories may talk to us and influence us in a variety of ways.

For me, when I talk about loneliness I am very comfortable with it, because I think that it is quite normal.  All people have loneliness. Ultimately, the soul is longing to return to its original Oneness again, but inside of this human body, we are separate.  The human journey is one that we each begin alone and we must also end alone, even if we are surrounded by loved ones, so it is very normal to feel lonely sometimes and to find oneself trying to avoid loneliness because we have a belief that loneliness is somehow “bad.”

Recently, when I shared my contemplations about loneliness with a senior master in my community, his response was, “Oh, it is very deep! It is right before enlightenment!”  His words felt so true for me in that moment.  I felt that to breathe with the loneliness of my soul was to breathe with the entire cosmos, and it felt so peaceful and so liberating.

Yet still what resonates most of all are my Seu-Seung Nim’s words on the subject.  I thought it would be appropriate today to share another one of my favorite passages from the “I’ve Decided to Live 120 Years” book.  It is from the section titled:  The Fragrance of Brilliant Solitude

Do not fear loneliness.  Great wisdom and love come to us from solitude and loneliness. The path of a human is essentially lonely, but when that solitude has reached the extreme and gone beyond, it changes to great gladness and peace.  That’s when you know great compassion.  Great compassion can be felt when it transcends human affection. It’s easy for human affection to give birth to attachment.  When you are leaning to one side and relying on or stuck in something, you cannot feel the whole.  You feel the whole when you are completely alone and lonely.  When the loneliness of being reaches deep into your heart, a bright light breaks out of the darkness. Then great solitude changes into brilliant light.

If you go forward wth brilliant solitude in your heart, you become what I call a truly fragrant person, one who has the greatest possible attractiveness, like a flower that must be admired for its beauty.  Then you develop a character that stands firmly in its center without attaching itself to other people or running from them or pushing them away. You become able to find the seat of harmony – an encompassing public peace and public love.  You are able to feel the greatest world of consciousness that can be felt by a human being.  The wisdom and power to bring harmony to the world emerges when you can look at the world with this awareness.                             – Ilchi Lee


For the health of our bodies, our minds and our spirits, for the harmony of our relationships, and for the benefit of the world around us, let’s all raise up our courage to uncover our brilliant solitude!

Thank you for the beautiful flower that you are ~ 🙂


10 Thoughts.

  1. It’s taking me a long time to digest all of this. We all feel lonely and times and try to ignore it by pushing those feelings away. Yes, this has a negative connotation. Solitude, on the other hand, is something that I welcome because it makes me feel peaceful and centered. I also consider myself to be somewhat of a loner–is that a bad thing?

    Finding harmony with the universe is another dimension that I’m constantly struggling with. The concept of Brilliant Solitude escapes me at the moment, but it’s a beautiful image to aspire to. My journey continues…

    • It’s ok Alice. There’s nothing here that’s really meant to be good or bad. Just different perspectives and contemplations that can give opportunity for new awareness and self-reflection. Take whatever part helps you and just chew a little bit on the parts that are hard to “digest.” Feel free to leave them or come back to them at another moment of life when you might resonate more. Most importantly, trust yourself and enjoy your ever unfolding journey 🙂

  2. Dear Danielle, for me solitude is the gift I owe to myself. To be true to myself and to follow only myself and my heart. It is hard for me to do that when I’m surrounded by people. I attune to their feelings and in that way I lose a lot. Of energy. It is so hard to focus that energy – and more importantly love – on myself.
    Solitude can transform into loneliness in an instant. In those moments it is as if my mind takes over and makes the most illogical connections. Because those connections don’t make sense at all, they tend to cause chaos and feelings of fear, chaotical swirles of uncontrolable, chaotic fear. It is as if my mind takes over.
    So the beauty of solitude can be decievably lonely and fearsome when the mind goes in overdrive. On bad days, the result is an anxiety attack.
    Love, Yvonne

    • Hello Yvonne ~ it’s also so good to hear from you!! (as I said to Taya as well). I totally understand what you are talking about here and I know that it can be so very difficult. Remember that Ki Energy can be a very important “key” for bridging the mind and body. If you can’t control your mind, try to stimulate your body (dahn jon tapping, jogging, jumping) and feel your body with breathing until you can pull your mind back into your body and get grounded there. Because your beautiful mind loves the gear of “overdrive” as you say, you are blessed with the need to practice A LOT! Best wishes to you always ~~~

      • Dear Danielle,
        Thank you so much. Currently experiencing a period of depression. It has been a very long time since I felt this way, and it scares the sh** out of me. I know it will pass, but it is hard to truely believe that at the moment I experience those feelings and the anxiety that come along with it. My yoga classes and my kick4fun classes (the theory and energy of kickboxing, with mindfullbess, yoga and a lot of attention for everything that you experience in your body. Since it is summer recess, there are no classes 🙁 Thank you for your input! Missed you.
        Love, Yvonne

        • Oh yes, movement is your medicine! When you feel scared, I recommend you try to find a new way to move…even if it means to just get up and run!
          Also, I love your poem!!! So sweet 🙂 Thank you for sharing your lovely heart! I’m so glad you’ll be attending the webinar!

  3. Another quote that leaps to mind and is very special to me is by the actress Lana Parrilla when talking about her feather tattoo. “You are where you need to be. Just take a deep breath.” That was on another painting I did, along with a quote by Teddy Roosevelt: “When you’re at the end of your rope, tie a knot and hold on.” Both of those as well as the Redmoon quote are on my gallery wall in my bedroom. I also want to add “She believed she could so she did”, “Let her sleep, for when she wakes, she will move mountains” and a quote by Shakespeare: “And though she be but little, she is fierce.” If you go on Facebook, you can see the progress of my room.

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