Unconditional Love

Back in December, I chose my 2020 theme word. It was “Unconditional Love.”

We never know how the universe will twist and turn itself in order to help us achieve our goals, right?

Standing here at this moment, looking at the world, quarantined in my house, limited in the work I can do, feeling the collective suffering, I keep asking myself, “What should I do? What should I do in this moment for the dream that I live for? What should I do for creating a brighter earth and a peaceful humanity?”

I get the same answer every time I ask. Each time it gets louder and clearer: Love.

Love and love and keep loving. Love the people your heart was closed to, the people that you felt hurt you, the people far away from you and the people near you. Just love endlessly and infinitely and let that love ripple out and bring your dream back to you. Love big and wide without expectation of return. Love with your purity, your sincerity, your authenticity, your truth. Love without conditions.

Even as I share this message with you here, I can feel the possibility of how different my life will be if only I can achieve this great love. And I feel that NOW IS THE TIME to make it happen. If not now, when?

I am reminded of one of Ilchi Lee’s messages from his “Calligraphic Meditation” book. I have dug it out so that I can add it to this post, in hopes that this time can be a meditation on Love for all of us. If that meditation is deep and real, then maybe – just maybe – when we emerge from our houses once more, the world will be a brighter, more peaceful, more loving place than the one we remembered.

The Law of Love

The human soul grows through love. It’s important to realize that you can create love infinitely instead of wandering in search of someone to love you.

Love grows more greatly when you give it than when you receive it. This amazing fact is the Law of Love.

If you want to live a life full of love, first give it without striving to receive it. If you keep trying to get love, your love will constantly grow smaller.

Because you’re trying to receive love, you will constantly feel sad and inadequate when the love you want doesn’t come. You will become endlessly sadder and lonelier. And you will come to mistakenly believe that you don’t have love yourself.

If you think about it quietly, you’ll realize that you’re happier when you give love than when you receive it. To use a knife as a metaphor, the one trying to get love holds a knife by the blade, while the one trying to give love holds the knife by its handle.

Those who keep trying to get love are anxious and worried. “What is my love leaves me?” they ask. “What if love never finds me?” On the other hand, people who give love to those around them have confidence.

Every one has the power of love. If you want love, you must use love. If there is no one close you can give love to, then love yourself first. Once that love fills you, then all you have to do is give it to others. That’s how you begin.

There is love inside us. However, we can’t experience the love unless we use it. We can’t trust it unless we experience it.

Love is like a spring that never runs dry . The more we use it, the more new love arises. – Ilchi Lee


Living Tao

As I said in my previous post, we all need to take our daily doses of good news to keep our spirits high, our minds bright and our bodies strong. For me, reading the “Living Tao” book by Ilchi Lee is one of the best ways to put healthy, positive, hopeful, Life-affirming information into my brain.

Today I wanted to share a couple of short passages that I came across as I was doing my reading last night. As a Self-Mastery Trainer, I especially love these passages because they address the topic of emotions. Being able to manage our emotions – especially in times like these – is critical for our overall health and well-being. I strongly believe that the better we are at deeply knowing ourselves and exercising our ability to manage our emotions, the more we can truly participate in making the world a more peaceful and harmonious place. After all, it’s human behaviors, fueled by their unruly, unconscious (and sometimes conscious) emotions, that causes much of (all of ?) the chaos that we witness in the media and in our lives everyday.

So! Here are some information vitamins for your soul!!

“You can begin to master your emotions by acknowledging them in an honest and compassionate manner. As you develop your awareness, you will increase your ability to observe your emotions calmly and objectively, without overreacting.

When we are in pain and overwhelmed by extreme emotions, it’s easy to believe that our emotions have a hold on us and won’t let go. But actually, we are frequently the ones who do the clinging. We must first realize this to control our feelings: ‘My feelings aren’t holding on to me; I’m actually holding on to them!’

Emotions come and go like clouds drifting across the sky. We do not need to cling to them, as they will inevitably soon change…. Our enlightenment takes root when we calmly observe the ups and downs of life as we witness the cycle of the seasons, trees growing, blooming, bearing fruit, and withering.” p. 63-64, Living Tao

“In order for our souls to control our emotions, there must be proper dialogue between the two. First, the soul must cease to identify itself with the emotions. The soul must seize leadership of the emotions by declaring, ‘My emotions are not me, but mine!’ In the instant the soul makes that proclamation, the emotions will say this to the soul: ‘You’ve always listened to what I said. We’ve been one, you know. Why are you suddenly saying that we’re no longer one? You’re my friend, aren’t you?’

Then the soul must be able to say to the emotions, ‘That was then, not now. You are emotion; I am soul. You are are not me, but mine. I have the power to watch and control you.’

Even though you make this declaration., it still won’t be easy to free from the domination of your emotions — at least not at first. As this dialogue between them continues, however, the soul will gain the power to lead the emotions, and the emotions will be tamed by the soul. The soul will recover its central place, its seat as master, and the emotions will act as helpers, assisting in the soul’s growth.” – p. 68, Living Tao

~ Ilchi Lee

In my life, the process to gain management over my emotions, while growing the strength of my soul, has been incredibly rewarding. It has brought much healing to my relationship with myself and others, and even to my own physical health. It has had a positive impact on just about every aspect of my life.

If you’re reading this and feel like now might be a good time to start practicing how to gain better management over your own emotions, please contact me by email, which can be found in the Work with Danielle section of this site. Even if you just have some questions – you are welcome to email me directly or reply to this post in the comment section. It is my great joy to be able to share the tools that have been so amazingly transformative for me and countless others on this journey of recovering inner peace.

Good News

I feel like we all need some good news these days. The bad news that is circulating throughout the world right now is toxic for us.

It’s like food. If you feed your body junk food long enough, it will get sick. Your body needs vitamins and nutrition to be healthy and strong. “Bad news,” or negative information, is like junk food for our spirit. At first we might want to munch on it for a bit. It might be kind of delicious in its own way. The drama of it all might entertain and excite us. However, if we listen to it long enough, our spirit becomes darkened and weak. We lose our inner strength, our inner center, and when that happens it’s easy to be consumed with fear, anxiety, worry… frustration, sadness and despair. In that condition, even maintaining one’s physical health becomes endangered.

We could even say that “good news,” or positive, hopeful information, is the spiritual vitamin that we need right now. It’s not even an understatement to say that this is a very important vitamin to maintain not only our emotional well-being, but our physical immunity too. It may feel really hard to do when we are bombarded by negativity from all angles. However, it’s up to each and every one of us to protect our own brain and make sure that we continue to polish the brightness of our spirit, despite the external circumstance. We all have the power to do this. Nobody can turn on your inner light for you, but it is truly hopeful and empowering that we are the ones who can do it for ourselves. It’s in our hands. It’s all about the perspective, the lens, we choose to see through.

So, let’s ask our brains. “My dear brain, please show me the positive side of things. Please give me hope. Please help me to find good news.” Your brain will definitely respond to you when you keep at it. Don’t let your brain become a slave to the news around you! YOU become the CREATOR of the news that you need to hear – the information that will make your brain work well. Information that will turn on the light inside and bring joy to your heart.

If it’s hard to find it, then place your hands on your chest and breathe. Feel the warmth inside, your heart beat, and keep communicating with yourself sincerely. If it’s still difficult, then go for a walk in nature and look up at the vast expanse of sky. Or, take a hot bath! Enjoy a talk with a friend! Sip on a cup of sweet tea! Exercise is always useful to shift your perspective, as well. After activating your muscles and raising your body temperature, your eyes will see things in a new way. The point is: Just keep trying something! At some moment, you will discover that brighter thoughts are naturally bubbling up to your mind. The condition of your brain has changed!

I want to ask for all of us to become Good News Creators at this time. The world needs us to do that now more than ever. We can continue to nervously nibble on the toxic information out there, or we can contribute to the much needed healing of the collective consciousness. We can build a bright, strong, healthy information field as we focus together. Each moment is critical. Let’s begin today!