Letting Go

I have been reading the book “Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender” by Dr. David Hawkins.  I highly recommend it.

The technique for letting go that he speaks about is very much what we practice in Brain Education Step 2. Versitilizing (making your brain flexible) and Step 3. Refreshing (releasing the negative memories and emotions).

Whenever we hear words such as “releasing” or “letting go”, it often times feels like a very difficult thing to do.  In fact, at the sound of such words, we might even find ourselves grasping on all the more tightly! What I have come to realize is that the more we TRY to release and let go (of our negative thoughts, emotions, habits, beliefs, memories and relationships) the further we push that possibility away.

It’s not about trying.  It’s about increasing your power to observe yourself, without becoming immersed and entangled in the thoughts and emotions that arise.  Observing.  Watching without judgement.  Witnessing them, identifying them very clearly and accurately, but not reacting to them. Very very tricky.

This process takes practice and time.  This is why we continuously work on Brain Education Step 1. Sensitizing – awakening our senses again and again through energy training so that we can have better awareness of ourselves.

We all need self-awareness.  Without it, we might hurt others without realizing it.  We might hurt ourselves. We might make our bodies sick. We might make our Earth sick.

Self-awareness is the beginning of healing.  It is the beginning of changing ourselves from an unconscious person, to a conscious one.

Yes, it can be a tedious process to awaken this sense and yes it might also bring new burdens upon you when you realize about your own habits so clearly as if you are looking into a pristine mirror.  This can be a painful process at times!  But, it is such a necessary process.  So that we can all take ownership of our own bodies, minds and spirits.  So that we can become truly harmonious beings who co-create Earth Peace.

And although it is painful at times, on the other side of that valley, there is freedom.  What more could we ask for?  There is nothing in this world that comes for free.  We must put in the work, and then reap the rewards.

 

Check Yourself! Love Yourself!

Wow~ it’s November already!

Although this has been a bumpy year for me filled with ups and downs (well more like epic crashes and heroic climbs) I don’t want to neglect this moment to do some self-reflection and evaluation on my 2018 goal.  Furthermore, I wanted to remind all of you to do the same!

Have you been focusing on the goal that you set for yourself at the beginning of the year?  How close have you come to achieving it?  What have you learned in the process?  In what way have you developed yourself on the road towards your goal?  How have you fallen short?

This is the practice of evaluating ourselves well so that we can do the 5th and final step of Brain Education: Brain Mastering.

Brain Mastering is about setting a concrete goal in order to manifest our greatest self in daily life, and then working toward it with continuous self-checking and refinement, giving birth to new choices and new actions, again and again, until we achieve our goal.  What happens in this process is Self-Transformation, Life-Transformation and World-Transformation.

Ilchi Lee so often says that what this world needs is human beings who have developed their brains into problem-solving brains.  Then we can really do “Earth Management.”

What does this Earth need?  There can be many answers ~ I encourage you to find your own!  One thing I felt it needed was more love, so I made my 2018 goal to “Love from my Soul – all people in all situations.”

I definitely did NOT achieve that goal yet! Hahaha.  Well, maybe moments of it, but I can hardly say that I am satisfied.  However, that does not mean that this is cause to be disappointed with myself or to blame myself.  This is an opportunity to learn something.

I have definitely learned a lot about myself this year, and I can say with certainty that it’s been a year of great awakenings and clarity in regards to the things inside of me that are blocking that love.  The more I I have been able to look at those things square in the eye, with courage, the less power they have had over me, and the more I feel a great brightness within illuminating on deeper and deeper levels.

This year I spent a lot of time facing: guilt, shame, humiliation, pride, the feeling of lack, desire for recognition, and desire for safety.  These are major players in the game that my ego plays with me.  After identifying all of them, I felt more clarity, more peace and it made space inside to welcome: positive thinking, abundance, the power to give energy to myself, the ability to let go …all of which have lead to a bigger love in my heart.  Not a particular kind of love, just love of self, love of beingness.

And so perfectly, I was recently introduced to the Korean pop band and their international hit song: Love Yourself.  It’s so very sweet ~ have you heard it? I will post the video with subtitles here so that you can understand it’s sweet message 🙂 And the coolest part is that these singers took courses at the Global Cyber University, founded by Ilchi Lee, where they all studied Brain Education.  It’s nice to see them spreading good information on a global scale!!

In conclusion, I want to say:

Let’s never give up seeing ourselves, picking ourselves up, dusting ourselves off and heading towards our goals again again, no matter how difficult life might be, mastering our brains one step at a time.

Let’s love ourselves, all of ourselves, so that we can truly love others with our Souls.  So that we can truly fill this world with Love ~

Let’s spend the remaining month and a half of this year with determination to achieve what we set out to accomplish! It’s never too late!!  Best wishes to all~~~~~~~

The Summit!

I wanted to give a shout out for  Change Your Energy’s first ever Energy Healing Summit.

It is my great honor that I have been invited to speak there among 7 other AMAZING speakers, who I admire deeply, and who have helped me in my healing process over the last 18 years in so many ways.   And to top it all off, the keynote speak will be my teacher, Ilchi Lee.  How exciting!

Each speaker will have wonderful wisdom to impart.  I will be talking about what I usually talk about ~ managing emotions 🙂  Other things too, but that’s the gist.

It will be a free week of healing messages and tips ~ I hope that you can join me there!

Here’s the link:

http://energyhealingsummit.changeyourenergy.com

Be well!

 

 

Understanding Anxiety

I just wanted to let you all know that I will be doing a free webinar next week on the topic of anxiety, if anyone is interested to listen in.

Ironically, after my last 3 blog posts on loneliness, Changeyourenergy.com has titled the introductory email that went out today, “You are not alone.”

Yes, it’s also true!  We all have a similar inner landscape.  When we try to process it together, we feel less alone in a chaotic world (both inner and outer), which gives us more strength and hope.

Here’s the link and info for anyone who is interested!

 

https://www.changeyourenergy.com/live-class/966/understanding-anxiety

 

Who is Danielle Gaudette?

Anxiety is a feeling that I know all too well.

I was given up for adoption when I was born, which led me to be extremely sensitive from a young age.

My mother who adopted and raised me – who I loved with all of my heart – struggled with mental illness.  As I watched her suffer through the torment of her own mind through the years, I developed a desperate desire for all people to have peace, including myself. I kept feeling that there must be a way to be free from emotional pain.  And I began to dream of a healthy world where we co-existed as a happy and peaceful humanity.

Discovering and recovering my own peace has been a long, beautiful, painful, dramatic and illuminating journey, full of ups and downs, laughter and tears. It is a journey that I am still very much walking, and one that I am very grateful for.

I have come to deeply understand inner worlds and how similar our internal struggles can be, even if we feel all alone! Overcoming the feelings of anxiety may seem impossible, but we just need to take the time to get to know ourselves and do some serious organizing.

You don’t have to live as a victim of your inner and outer worlds.  There is a great power and possibility within you. Let’s find it! Let’s live it!

I hope you can join me for my live class where I’ll talk about understanding the root of anxiety and how to process it, based on my experience. [August 21st @ 5:30pm PT / 8:30 ET, Free to Join] The class will be interactive so I will take any questions that you may have while watching the class.

>> Click here to join my live class. 

Thank you so much, and remember, you are not alone!

 

Sincerely,

Danielle Gaudette
Instructor
Understanding Anxiety

 

 

 

 

Brilliant Solitutde

One last post on the topic of loneliness!

I realize that people might have many different kinds of reactions and responses to this word because each of us may have a different relationship to the feeling and idea of loneliness, depending on where we are at in life.  In addition, each of us may have had different past experiences regarding it, so our memories may talk to us and influence us in a variety of ways.

For me, when I talk about loneliness I am very comfortable with it, because I think that it is quite normal.  All people have loneliness. Ultimately, the soul is longing to return to its original Oneness again, but inside of this human body, we are separate.  The human journey is one that we each begin alone and we must also end alone, even if we are surrounded by loved ones, so it is very normal to feel lonely sometimes and to find oneself trying to avoid loneliness because we have a belief that loneliness is somehow “bad.”

Recently, when I shared my contemplations about loneliness with a senior master in my community, his response was, “Oh, it is very deep! It is right before enlightenment!”  His words felt so true for me in that moment.  I felt that to breathe with the loneliness of my soul was to breathe with the entire cosmos, and it felt so peaceful and so liberating.

Yet still what resonates most of all are my Seu-Seung Nim’s words on the subject.  I thought it would be appropriate today to share another one of my favorite passages from the “I’ve Decided to Live 120 Years” book.  It is from the section titled:  The Fragrance of Brilliant Solitude

Do not fear loneliness.  Great wisdom and love come to us from solitude and loneliness. The path of a human is essentially lonely, but when that solitude has reached the extreme and gone beyond, it changes to great gladness and peace.  That’s when you know great compassion.  Great compassion can be felt when it transcends human affection. It’s easy for human affection to give birth to attachment.  When you are leaning to one side and relying on or stuck in something, you cannot feel the whole.  You feel the whole when you are completely alone and lonely.  When the loneliness of being reaches deep into your heart, a bright light breaks out of the darkness. Then great solitude changes into brilliant light.

If you go forward wth brilliant solitude in your heart, you become what I call a truly fragrant person, one who has the greatest possible attractiveness, like a flower that must be admired for its beauty.  Then you develop a character that stands firmly in its center without attaching itself to other people or running from them or pushing them away. You become able to find the seat of harmony – an encompassing public peace and public love.  You are able to feel the greatest world of consciousness that can be felt by a human being.  The wisdom and power to bring harmony to the world emerges when you can look at the world with this awareness.                             – Ilchi Lee

 

For the health of our bodies, our minds and our spirits, for the harmony of our relationships, and for the benefit of the world around us, let’s all raise up our courage to uncover our brilliant solitude!

Thank you for the beautiful flower that you are ~ 🙂

 

More on Loneliness

Hello!

As mentioned in my last post, here is a podcast that I did with Linda Yoon from CHANGE TV on the topic of loneliness.

I’m not sure if you will find it useful or enjoyable, as it is a different modality than we usually have here on Healing Tree, but different and new is good!

Linda has a lot of personal experience with this topic so she is very passionate about it.  Change TV is part of Changeyourenergy.com, and according to the folks over there, I am considered one of the “experts” on emotional trauma, so she invited me to talk about the subject with her 🙂

I feel that there is much to explore about this feeling, but the podcast touches on some of the important places to begin that process.  Please feel free to share here or ask if you have any other questions on the subject.

Have a lovely day!

Poem #1

Recently, my brother Ian was encouraging me to write poetry.  He always reminds me that he loved the poetry I wrote when I was younger and urges me to continue doing it.  However, sometimes there’s just nothing there, you know?  It’s not that I don’t have things to write about because I am always filled with feelings, awarenesses and reflections, but sometimes those synapses are just not firing when I look at the paper.

So I told him on that day, “Ok, how about this? You text me a word or a sentence to stimulate my brain and I’ll bounce off of it by creating a poem.”

Now here I am, sharing what we came up with!

Ian sent me a quote written by a man named Hayden White, from “The Historical Text as Literary Artifact”, as follows:

“It is frequently forgotten or, when remembered, denied that no given set of events attested by the historical record comprises a story manifestly finished and complete. This is as true as the events that comprise the life of an individual as it is of an institution, a nation, or a whole people.  We do not live stories, even if we give our lives meaning by retrospectively casting them in the form of stories.”

To which I concocted the following poem, that has no name, so I just call it Poem #1:

I want to live

In the reality.

I desperately want it.

I long for it I pray for it

How silly I am!

Longing for something that I already am, longing for a place where I already am.

The story that is the reality where I live….exhausts me….

What a strange existence.

If I have to live and die like this, I’m not sure if I can forgive myself.

But to think like that, fuels my story even more….

Can I surrender my precious pitiful empty story?

Can I be brave enough to face the vast loneliness that unveils when that story is peeled away?

A great teacher once said, “if you can watch your loneliness, you can be enlightened.”

Perhaps it is true of all of history, of the entire human race – we are all just bunnies running away from the tiger of loneliness, not realizing that it’s just a paper tiger, after all.

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It felt good to write that poem! I just put the pen down, not knowing where it would lead, and a bunch of different things that were processing inside of me organized themselves and came out 🙂

Ian’s response was:  Loneliness!

Interestingly, just a week ago I was invited by Linda Yoonjin of Change TV to do a podcast with her, chatting on the topic of ‘loneliness.’  I will be posting that podcast here as soon as it comes out for the public.  So, more on the topic of loneliness to come….

Thank you Ian for knocking on the dusty door of my inner poet once again and inspiring her into action!

 

Absolute Acceptance

How would you answer the question: What is the opposite of fear?

For me, there are different answers on different days, depending on what I’m experiencing and where I’m at in my journey.

Sometimes the answer is Love.  Sometimes the answer is Courage.

Today, I feel that the opposite of fear is Absolute Acceptance.

Accept everything.  Accept what the moment brings to me.  Who said it should be any other way?  Why do we put so many expectations on life?  Life should be like this and it shouldn’t be like that.  He’s supposed to do this and she’s supposed to do that.  I’m not supposed to be like this, it’s not supposed to be this way…and so on and so on.

Have you ever taken a look at how many should’s and supposed to’s that you are projecting onto each and every moment?  The problem is that we are mostly doing it unconsciously.  But I invite you to bring it into your conscious awareness.  It may be painful, yet I still invite you to do it.  It’s when we finally see the truth of our habits that we have the opportunity to change.

Life is life.  But I put my expectations on it.  Then, when life doesn’t match my expectations, I suffer. Isn’t it so?

Let’s check our expectations carefully.  I believe that they are causing us pain.  But the good news is: Although we cannot change the current of life, we can change ourselves and our expectations of it.  We can change our perspective.  We can let go of our demands on life and just lean into it AS IT IS.

Is this easy to do?  No way!

But will it bring us more peace?  Yes, definitely.

I have heard some call this “radical acceptance”.  I want to call it “absolute acceptance.”  Absolutely accept every single thing as it is.  Look into your own heart and find the judgement, expectation and “should” that you put onto yourself, your situation, or the person involved in it.

Let’s stop demanding from life.  It’s stressing us out and disabling us from being ALIVE.

Let’s start in small doses – just a moment here or there when you can grab hold of this perspective.  Awaken the calmly observing eye within you that is watching life through you without any commentary of goods and bads, rights and wrongs.  I’m not saying to stay there always because that will lead to disappointment in yourself.  Instead, take it easy and slow… just try to begin the process of waking it up.  That eye is always open, but we couldn’t allow ourselves to see from it because we were so busy judging ourselves and our innocent lives.  And why?  With what and whose standards have we been judging with?

I believe this is an important thing to consider in our journey of awakening.

 

Self-Discovery

What are you discovering, uncovering about yourself these days?

As the earth turns, as summer rolls by, as good news and bad news come and go from the world around us…. what are you seeing about yourself?  How are you changing?  Isn’t that the duty and purpose of our existence as human beings?  To at least keep changing and growing ourselves with sincere effort to evolve into the best people that we can be?

In Ilchi Lee’s newest book, I’ve Decided to Live 120 Years, he’s got some great passages on the topic of self-cultivation.  He says that, “Continuously thinking good thoughts, acting on those thoughts, and moving your body and mind are all self-development…Being able to smile more often, overlooking the mistakes of others with a smile, telling someone more easily that you love them, and being true to yourself – these are also the results of self-development.”

Even as I type that here, I find myself breathing out with a sigh of great relief.  Isn’t it such good news?  It’s even the smallest things that we shift in life – just breaking out of the mold of our old habits the slightest bit- that makes us feel proud of ourselves and our brains start to produce positive messages.

I love the above quote. Simple but true.  It makes me thing of another thing that Ilchi Lee always says: Good news makes a good brain.  This is one of the key principles of how to have a healthy, optimal-functioning Brain Operating System.  Just as negative information is like toxic poison for our spirit, which then slowly seeps into our minds and bodies affecting our health, positive messages become medicine for us!

So right now, at this very moment, whatever issue of life that you may be struggling with, take a moment to pause, breathe out, and encourage yourself with a positive, hopeful thought about it.  Feel how your energy shifts as you do so, and you will find your mind and body relaxing.  You are now leaving the Fight or Flight mode and entering Rest and Digest.  The power to give ourselves good news is IN OUR HANDS.  Let’s use it to make ourselves better humans.  As we all know, the world definitely needs us all to be better and better humans 🙂

Today’s Reflections

Hello World,

How are you?  Are you feeling bright and hopeful these days?  Or do many concerns of your life and your world weigh you down?

It’s been a long time for me to write.  I have been missing Healingtree. I have been so deeply immersed in my own process that it’s been difficult for me to come up for air to write.

Today’s Reflections:

My true value is the sky and the trees.  Therefore, I must always stand tall with a shining spirit in order to protect that value.  I must, with great courage, let go of my “self” who blocks that value, but who is not really me.  It’s so easy, yet so complicated.  It seems that the ego would do everything in it’s power to distract me from the very truth of my existence.  However, maybe if I just let that ego of mine run its wheels long enough, it will lose it’s steam and finally surrender.  I must stay positive and awake.

Love is medicine.  To know my value is true love for myself and only when I do that can I truly love others. Because loving others is seeing their value, isn’t it? And when I see my value, I can see their value.  And vice versa.  Because we are one.

It’s all very beautiful.  Even suffering and failure can be beautiful.  And we must do even those things – suffer and fail- with bravery.

I hope that my reflections are useful to you who is reading this!  I would love to hear your reflections too.

I hope to share more often.  Sharing my heart makes me feel alive 🙂

Thank you for listening!

Love to all ~