Sex, Marriage, Relationships

Sex, Marriage, Relationships; three things that I don’t talk about very much here on Healing Tree!  However, these are the topics of the YouTube live featuring my teacher, Ilchi Lee, on Tuesday, September 14th @ 3pm PT.

I’m looking forward to hearing what he has to say.  Having studied the Tao with him for over 20 years, I am certain that he will give perspective on the subjects from the spiritual body.  Sex, marriage & relationships are very much related to our lives in the physical body.  However, when we have any struggle with such issues, it is hard to find the solution when seeing them from the perspective of our physical selves alone.  As physical beings, we deal with all kinds of emotions and desires of the ego, as well as memories of the past and influences of what the physical world around us tells us and shows us about sex, marriage and relationships.  When we become controlled by those emotions, desires and memories, we become easily confused, and this threatens our healthy relationship with these three topics.

When that happens, it’s good to take a step back and see from a wider perspective, to look at sex, marriage and relationships with our spiritual eyes.  Looking at these worldly matters from the viewpoint of the cosmos, or the Tao, or whatever you want to call it, we can find answers and solutions where we may have otherwise been stuck.  After all, we are not only physical beings, we are spiritual beings, and all the wisdom we need is within us – it’s just that we cannot access it when we become blinded by our emotions, desires and memories.

I believe the talk with Ilchi Lee will help us to open our spiritual eyes and see from new perspectives.  That is why, as I said, I am very much looking forward to hearing what he has to say.  I find that examining any topic from that expanded perspective is both refreshing and enlightening.

If you are interested in it as well, please join me.

Abandonment

Once again, it’s been too long.  I would have liked to have written sooner, by I was consumed by my life and especially consumed by the time it has taken to work on my book.  I feel like I have abandoned my blog and all of you, and that makes me sad.  I myself despise to be abandoned – I have all sorts of issues with it – and I never like to see myself doing to others what I don’t like done to me.

However, as with all feelings, hurts, wounds, emotions, it’s better to just face my feeling.  If I allow myself to feel the pain completely, I can move past it more quickly.  It’s when I want to avoid my pain (of being abandoned, of abandoning others, of any and all hurtful emotions), that the pain chases me.  As I get older and my practice deepens, I find myself more and more tired of running.  Rather than living a life that is tangled up and discolored by the dramas I create, I’d rather just live life as it is.  It feels more fulfilling that way, although the pleasure is different than the pleasure of the drama.  The energy I get from the excitement of reacting to my emotions is akin to eating cookies – so satisfying and delicious for a moment, but if I eat too much, I feel sick.  I can’t live a healthy life on the diet of cookies.  The energy I get from disengaging in the emotional intensity of the drama, the chase, is far less exciting. The energy from facing the moment is akin to eating vegetables: less thrilling but far more sustainable.  As I mature, I feel that what I need is that moderate, healthy, sustainable energy.  That’s what makes me happy, what is healthy for my body and mind, and what feeds my soul.  The deeper joy of vegetables is what I find myself looking for more and more.

Therefore, I am once again facing my pain of “abandoning,” my blog. I’m forgiving myself because it was all done with the purpose of creating my book, a dream that needed an intense amount of time and energy to be manifested.  I’m making a new choice, the choice to begin posting again!  So here I am, taking action on that choice.

Ilchi Lee often talks about the healing phrases of Ho’oponopono as being four phrases that can heal any relationship.  I’d like to express those phrases to you now, in hopes that you will feel my heart:

I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.

I’d love to pick up our conversations where we left off.  Please share with me about your emotional processes these days, your awakenings, your sorrows, your dreams.  Let’s create a healing space together.

 

 

The Alchemy of Gratitude

This year, my theme for the year is TRUST. I am practicing to trust myself more deeply, as well as to trust the universe itself. Life is continuously giving me opportunities 🙂

In my quest for self-trust, I have discovered the importance of self-love. Trusting myself is loving myself. Furthermore, it is very hard to climb out of the dark hole of self-doubt if I do not love myself enough to have the power to say, “Enough with this!”

It’s a choice. I can choose to love myself, I can choose to trust myself, and I can choose to be grateful for all of it. The choice is always there waiting for me, but if I don’t have enough of a sense of self-trust, self-love or gratitude, if I don’t have a feeling for what it means to do that, then it is hard to choose it.

It’s my job to cultivate those feelings. I have to find them within me and wake them up and nurture them so that they grow. These days, I am carefully grooming the garden of self-trust, self-love & gratitude in my heart.

Today I remembered Ilchi Lee’s message from the Calligraphic Meditation book. “The Alchemy of Gratitude.” It in, he is speaking of exactly this – the cultivation of gratitude.

After reading it, I felt that I couldn’t have said it better than him, so I have decided to share it here today.

When you read it, I encourage you to not only consider the alchemy of gratitude, but to consider the alchemy of self-trust and self-love as well. The seeds of all of these lie within our souls. We can awaken them anytime, when choose to be diligent in our efforts. I hope that this message will touch your heart and open your mind to infinite possibilities.

The Alchemy of Gratitude

Gratitude is a technique of the mind that anyone can learn and develop. When your experience and understanding of gratitude deepen, you’ll know that it simply means being grateful for everything, in any circumstance whatsoever. Every moment of life will be filled with gratitude, and you needn’t try hard to find it.

At first, gratitude must be looked at to be seen, must be sought to be found. Find something to be thankful for, even though you feel it’s insignificant. We all have something to be thankful for.

If you really think you have nothing to be grateful for, then be thankful you were born a human being. Be grateful that you are still breathing and that your heart still beats. And be thankful that the sun rose today, that a new season has come, and the trees are green again.

If you have true gratitude for even one thing, at some moment thankfulness will rush over you like a wave.

When thankfulness matures, then appreciation – temporary, conditional, and calculating – gives way to unconditional, sustained gratitude.

Such gratitude takes away from our lives’ complaints and dissatisfaction, anxieties and worries, and brings in their place infinite positivity and peace.

Train yourself to be thankful, whatever your circumstances. Let gratitude fill your whole mind so that thankfulness overflows into your whole life.

If your heart is filled with gratitude, you can’t live halfheartedly. You can’t use tricks or do cowardly things for your benefit alone.

When you are grateful, you show full devotion in whatever you do and do your best no matter whom you meet.

A holy mind comes out of a grateful heart. Gratitude is an alchemy of the soul everyone should practice.

~ Ilchi Lee~

Sincere Gratitude

Dear Friends of this Healing Tree,

I would like to sincerely thank those of you who have contributed to the GoFundMe for my book. I can’t tell you how much it means to me.

There were even those of you who sent encouraging messages with your donations and they were so very touching to me. It’s inspiring and encouraging to hear of your support and a bit about how my journey relates with your journey. To me, that is the healing tree, and we are co-creating a healthier forest and a healthier world as we open our hearts and share with one another.

There were some donations that came through which even brought me to tears. I was so touched to feel the heart and mind that makes the choice to help another human. There were moments when my phone pinged to show me that a donation had come through and in that moment of my life, it actually healed me to receive it.

Life is so interesting. However crazy this world may be, it is so precious that we can love and care for each other. It’s such a beautiful thing that we can inspire and support each other in ways we don’t even realize, just by making choices.

Through our simple choices to be brave, to be honest, to be empathetic, to open our hearts once more, we make this world a better place.

Through the GoFundMe, plus donations given outside of it by people who wanted to send to me privately, I have reached over half of my goal!! For me, it is very exciting and I am already amazed, deeply moved, and sincerely grateful for every single one of you. So much so, that I wanted to take time to share my heart with you.

Thank you for brightening my life with your love!

Blessings of light & love for all!,

Danielle

Your Support!

Hello to all of my dearly beloved Healing Tree readers!

Are you still out there? I hope that this post finds you happily creating your lives 🙂

I think of you often, but have been consumed by my push to finish my first-ever and likely-to-be-only book. It is a huge undertaking not only of time and energy, but mental and emotional willpower!! I would like to give a huge round of applause to all of the book-writers of the world! I truly commend you. You are amazing.

I am approaching the summit of the birth of my book-baby, which in its current form is titled, “Healing Tree: an adoptee’s story of hurting, healing & letting the light shine through.” Soon it will be time to seek professional editing and embark on my self-publishing journey.

For this, I would love to ask you for your support! The fees for this part of the climb are quite high, and I do not have the have funds to cover the costs, so I am reaching out to Healing Tree supporters who may be willing to lend a small hand. Any size of contribution is humbly welcomed! Many small hands will give me the boost I need to get to the top of this mountain!!!

Here’s the link to my GoFundMe:

http://gf.me/u/zibapz

Thank you sooooo much in advance and I look forward to communicating more with all of you in the very near future! I have missed you!

If you have any questions, feel free to post in the comments.

I am sending many blessing for your health, happiness & peace.

With Love & Light,

Danielle

Year of Love

Dear Healing Tree Readers,

It’s been so very long since I have written here ~ almost the whole year!

But I wanted to check in now to see if you have been keeping up with your 2020 goals, despite all of the unexpected craziness that we have faced this year?

This is very important. Through making goals that expand ourselves into the people who we truly want to be, and keeping those goals despite the wild ride of life, that is how we grow our consciousness.

And I still stand firm in my belief that what humanity needs most right now is to raise up the brightness of the collective consciousness. Each one of us are the people who need to do that. This is the most important choice of all.

It may sound odd, but I actually had a beautiful year. I set out with the goal to grow my power to love. And as the pandemic hit, I wrote a post about choosing for love. As I have continued to choose for love, in the face of all of my struggles and circumstances, some amazing things began to unfold.

Unexpectedly, I experienced a tremendous amount of reconciliation between myself and several important people from my past. There were things that needed to be said, actions that needed to be taken and forgiveness that needed to be asked for, as well as offered, in order to heal some outstanding hurts. The amazing part about it is that some of those hurts were things so far gone into the past that I just thought they were behind me. But 2020 brought them back to me, and I cried many tears of gratitude and joy as those amends were made.

It’s impossible to describe the type of joy and lightness of my heart that came when I realized that despite those painful and confusing experiences of the past, the choices we make right now are what matter most. And when all the cobwebs of misunderstanding are cleared away, what remains is just love. Pure love that cannot be damaged. As I found this love again and again through my reconciliations, I realized that my capacity to love was, in fact, growing.

When you set a goal, one never knows how the universe will bring it to you. It may look nothing like you expected. I felt that these opportunities for healing came to my life one by one because I have worked so hard, each and every day, sincerely trying to develop myself into a person who can truly contribute to the good of all – what we call in Body & Brain, a Hongik person.

So as we come upon this Thanksgiving season, I invite all of you to begin looking back on your year to see where you began, how far you have come, and where you want to go when the new year arrives. No matter what is going on around you, you can always set this goal and experience the empowerment of creating your life. That is an empowerment that can never be taken away from you.

Personally, I want to offer my thanks for all of those who gave me the opportunity to heal & grow, to say I’m sorry & please forgive me, who opened your heart to me, even when it was not easy, and gave me the chance to choose love. Not the love of “thank you for doing something nice for me”, but the love that shines whole and bright in an unconditional place. Because of you, that is the kind of love I have found again and again in 2020. Amidst all the darkness and chaos, I was blessed to find that love, feel that love and choose for that love again and again. You have given me the most beautiful gift.

I will continue to grow and expand myself with this love, finishing out the year by keep my promises to myself. As a side note, one of these promises was to work on my book, which I have kept to all year, now finishing up the second draft and preparing for the next step.

However, I have missed my Healing Tree readers and look forward to providing more messages here of support and hope in 2021. But you are on my mind – all of you who I am endlessly grateful for – as we approach this holiday season. Let’s check our goals and get ready to finish the year on a positive note. Let’s not forget how important we are! Let’s keep turning our inner light on as we move through dark days and nights, and create a future that we all want to see. That future begins right here and now, inside of our hearts.

Healthy Summer

I hope that you all are having the healthiest, happiest and most peaceful summer that you could possibly have, despite worldly circumstances.

If there was ever a time to practice that “I am a creator of my own life,” I feel that time is now.

More than maybe ever, we are being given wild and crazy opportunities to make difficult choices each and every day.

What are you choosing for?

I truly hope that you are choosing for your health, happiness and peace. If you don’t do it, there is nobody who can or will choose it for you.

This is something that is truly in your hands. And that’s the good news.

So, if you are looking for a healthier, happier and more peaceful action to take these days, I’d like to share with you a link to Body and Brain’s Summer Health Webinars.

I myself will be leading a session called, “Intro to Emotional Self Mastery” with focus on increasing Self-Acceptance & Self-Love.

The more we practice to accept and love ourselves, the more we can accept and love the situations that we find ourselves in. Everything begins with you, all the answers are truly within you, and you are the hope that you are looking for.

The below link leads to more info on my session and how to register if you are interested. I believe that you can follow it to find out about other positive, healing webinars that will also be taking place this summer.

May you awaken, grow, heal & transform through your wise and conscious choices!

https://summerhealth2020.bodynbrain.com/

Happy Earth Day!

Every time I recite the Earth Citizen Declaration, I see people from all over the world reciting it together. So, I gathered some friends and decided to put my joyful & touching vision into creation. I hope that it makes your heart smile as well!

Here is my Earth Day 2020 gift, to all of my fellow Earth Citizens!

Made with love ~~~~~

I am an Earth Citizen!

Every morning after I do my Bowing Meditation, I sit down and read Ilchi Lee’s, “Earth Citizen Declaration.”

Each time I read it I find that I love every single word of it more and more. So much so, that I decided to inscribe it into my memory.

As I close my eyes and recite it to myself, I find myself imagining all of my fellow Earth Citizens around the globe declaring together in agreement, “Yes! I too am an Earth Citizen!”

I long to see the day when 100 million Earth Citizens band together like a golden web across this planet.

For April 2020, Body & Brain is going to honor our Mother Earth by hosting a Global Earth Day Meditation on 4/22 @ 10am PST/ 1pm EST. I hope that ALL of you will tune in to Body and Brain TV for the Youtube Live event! Let’s unite in our spirit of Earth Citizenship. Let’s begin to weave this web.

If you read the following declaration and it resonates with your heart, then feel free to declare in the comments: I am an Earth Citizen!

If you feel even more inspired, please join me on social media to share #iamanearthcitizen #getbright. The Get Bright movement is about people gathering their minds and hearts together in light, love & hope. It’s about increasing our collective care, connection & consciousness. It’s about letting our true human nature shine.

But, it’s not about me trying to convince you. The light only grows when we do it sincerely from our hearts. So, I share this declaration with you from my heart. And if you feel it in yours, you can share it too ~ 🙂

EARTH CITIZEN DECLARATION

I declare that I am an Earth Citizen who loves and cherishes all humans and all life, as someone who has found my value and recovered my character.

I declare that I am an Earth Citizen who contributes to making a happy, healthy family and peaceful community.

I declare that I am an Earth Citizen who lives for an Earth Village where all humanity lives as one family beyond nationality, race and religion.

I declare that I am an Earth Citizen who acts to protect and restore the global ecosystem so that the earth may recover its original beauty and vitality.

I declare that I am an Earth Citizen who takes part in the work of developing 100 million Earth Citizens for the evolution of human consciousness and the advent of a new era of civilization on earth.

Unconditional Love

Back in December, I chose my 2020 theme word. It was “Unconditional Love.”

We never know how the universe will twist and turn itself in order to help us achieve our goals, right?

Standing here at this moment, looking at the world, quarantined in my house, limited in the work I can do, feeling the collective suffering, I keep asking myself, “What should I do? What should I do in this moment for the dream that I live for? What should I do for creating a brighter earth and a peaceful humanity?”

I get the same answer every time I ask. Each time it gets louder and clearer: Love.

Love and love and keep loving. Love the people your heart was closed to, the people that you felt hurt you, the people far away from you and the people near you. Just love endlessly and infinitely and let that love ripple out and bring your dream back to you. Love big and wide without expectation of return. Love with your purity, your sincerity, your authenticity, your truth. Love without conditions.

Even as I share this message with you here, I can feel the possibility of how different my life will be if only I can achieve this great love. And I feel that NOW IS THE TIME to make it happen. If not now, when?

I am reminded of one of Ilchi Lee’s messages from his “Calligraphic Meditation” book. I have dug it out so that I can add it to this post, in hopes that this time can be a meditation on Love for all of us. If that meditation is deep and real, then maybe – just maybe – when we emerge from our houses once more, the world will be a brighter, more peaceful, more loving place than the one we remembered.

The Law of Love

The human soul grows through love. It’s important to realize that you can create love infinitely instead of wandering in search of someone to love you.

Love grows more greatly when you give it than when you receive it. This amazing fact is the Law of Love.

If you want to live a life full of love, first give it without striving to receive it. If you keep trying to get love, your love will constantly grow smaller.

Because you’re trying to receive love, you will constantly feel sad and inadequate when the love you want doesn’t come. You will become endlessly sadder and lonelier. And you will come to mistakenly believe that you don’t have love yourself.

If you think about it quietly, you’ll realize that you’re happier when you give love than when you receive it. To use a knife as a metaphor, the one trying to get love holds a knife by the blade, while the one trying to give love holds the knife by its handle.

Those who keep trying to get love are anxious and worried. “What is my love leaves me?” they ask. “What if love never finds me?” On the other hand, people who give love to those around them have confidence.

Every one has the power of love. If you want love, you must use love. If there is no one close you can give love to, then love yourself first. Once that love fills you, then all you have to do is give it to others. That’s how you begin.

There is love inside us. However, we can’t experience the love unless we use it. We can’t trust it unless we experience it.

Love is like a spring that never runs dry . The more we use it, the more new love arises. – Ilchi Lee

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